Forgotten or not known?

Recently, I watched "Aezham Arivu". It's really nice to see that a monk from India, that too from Tamil Nadu, travelled all across the country to China and is remembered by them ever since. In the beginning of the movie, people from TamilNadu and China are asked questions about 'Bodhi Dharman'.
Only the Chinese seemed to know him but all the Tamilians said, "Antha paeraiyae neenga solli thaan theriyum!".

In the climax, actor Surya blames all Tamilians for forgetting such an awesome monk.
My question to Director Murugadoss is, "It's really great to watch such a movie, nice effort and lovely direction. Congratulations!!! but why blame us?". It's like asking us, "Who is Zhang Ziyi?". (For those of you who don't know who is Zhang Ziyi - she is a chinese actress. Remember our "Paayum puli pathungum naagam"? ;))

Ofcourse we don't remember who is 'Bodhi Dharman' because we don't know him. How will we know him when he learns everything in our country and goes to another country then sacrifices his life for them? Did we forget our great kings, leaders and poets? Ofcourse we learn about them in our books and through our grandparents because they left their foot prints in our country and served our society. Now we teach our kids about them.

So I think it's better to stop blaming us for forgetting the 'monk' who did nothing to us.

Self Confidence!

  I recently had my c-section and delivered a beautiful or should I say handsome baby boy. Unfortunately my family could not come over to help me. My friend suggested me a Gujarati lady to help me around. She gave me her no:. I thought I could manage somehow without help and my husband took care of home for three weeks. After he went back to work I tried hard to do stuff all by myself but it was difficult. So one fine day I decided to call the lady.

She came home and I called my friend to help me with the language. Unfortunately the lady spoke only Gujarati and Hindi, except 'no' and 'OK' in English. To my surprise not even numbers. She know only 1-10 in English. Even the word 'Twenty-Five' was too complicated for her. I have to say '2' and '5' separately for $25.

She comes with her Sister-in-law to work. Since she comes along with her I thought she is helping her around with the language problem ofcourse she does, she is her chat partner. She sits there in the kitchen and while the other lady works. She doesn't even help her. That doesn't mean she is a 'mean' SIL, but a very business calculative people. Because for an hour it's $10 and if she helps her around she can complete the work within half-an-hour. Impressed!!!

U all know from my other post I don't speak Hindi. I can understand though! The funniest thing about me is I can read and write hindi very clearly because I have completed my Prathmic in 5th Std. 

She came for the first time and understood I don't speak hindi  and to my surprise she told me, "I'll teach you hindi so u won't have any problems". It's kind of funny because she is in USA where people don't speak hindi, she doesn't know a word in English now she wants me to learn hindi to communicate with her. She must've understood those with the look I gave her so after 5 mins she told me "I'll teach u hindi and u teach me English". I said, 'Ok!'. She cooked and cleaned the whole place. She is so confident about her food, she said me not to worry about anything and leave the cooking to her. Believe it or not I understand the whole thing she spoke in hindi. I asked her to make Chappathi and Chenna.

As soon as she started, I couldn't resist it. The whole house is filled with the aroma of her cooking. She asked me to taste it. I loved it. The food spoke for her. No wonder she is so confident about her work. Without knowing a word in English, she is working in more than 3 houses in my neighborhood. After tasting her food and seeing her work I would definetly recommend to my friends around here. Now this I would call 'Self-Confidence'.

P.S., Now I'm communicating with her thru 'Google:Translate'. Trust me it works.  

Error!

These days simple mistakes are the reason for breakups in many relationships.

Alexander Pope said , "To Error is Human to forgive is Divine".  My point is you don't have to be a divine to forgive everything, but be a human to understand that mistakes are part of your life.

Success!

"Behind every successful man there is woman"
This is a World Wide saying.
I always wondered is there any saying like, "Behind every successful woman there is a man" ?

Translation

These days TeleVision shows are more helpful for learning languages. Kids pick them very easily, esp., through Nick Jr.
They really concentrate on 2 languages. Good job!
Yesterday I gave my daughter her favourite candy, she said, "Xie Xie, Amma" means "Thank you" in Chinese. I was surprised, she is asking me a reply in chinese, naan athukku thiru thirunnu mulichuttu aetho apapo avaloda saernthu paartha voru sila episodes gnabagathukku vara, "Bu ka qi" nnu volarinaen.
Summa viduvaangala, vudanae ennai correct panni, "búyòngxiè" apadinnnu sonnal. Enakku apavum vonnum puriyellai, aetho athu ithunnu samalichittu net la poi thaan ava sonnathukku reply paarthaen, adutha thadavai correcta sollanum illai.
Antha maathiri vovuru translation paarkkum pothu namma mozhi patrulla, English - Tamil meaning paarkum pothu athirchi, enna theriyuma, Englishla "Hi" nna Tamila "Alo" vaama.
Enna kodumai Aandavaraey ithu!

Achamundu Achamundu!

A friend of mine suggested me to see this amazing movie while we were talking about protection for kids. I was scared to see this movie in the beginning because, chumma manasai pottu kuzhapikka vaendamnu thaan. Aerkanavae US la, "Law and Order: Criminal Intent" paarthuttu theruvula poravanga varavangalai ellam paarthu santhaegam varuthu. Irunthaalum antha padathula apadi enna thaan irukkunnu voru curiosity. Padam paathathukappuram avangalukku thanks sollanumnu thonuchu, its such a wonderul film, ellarum paarka vaendiya film, kuripa veli naatula irukaravanga kandippa paarkanum.
Summa solla koodathu, US lifea avlo azhagha director Arun Vaidhiyanathan prethibalichirukaaru. Anga irukara vovoru family kittaeyum poi interview edutha maathiri irukku. Grocery shoppingla irunthu birthday party varaikkum, it's perfect.
Prasanna and Sneha acted so perfectly, definetly I should mention about the little girl, she had done a very good job in the climax. Should appreciate the painter, John Shea, he gave such wonderful expressions in his eyes.
I've seen many houses in US, they have the name of the security system board outside. I don't understand one thing, isn't it a warning for the burglar's to get alert? What if, he catches the owner outside and blackmails him to switch of the security system? Trust me, I've even seen a problem like this in one hollywood movie, "Firewall", starring "Harrison Ford".
Ennai kaetaal I'll give advice to all the alarm systems have a secret code for these kind of black mails, in case if the owner gives that code, it'll be a warning for them and send help immediately. Chumma phone panni," we received a call are u alright?" apadinnu kaetkaama intha code paarthavudanaey prechanainnu purinjukanum, epadi enoda idea?
I will recommend our Sandrabullock's, SING from the movie, "Miss.Congeniality" to every house wife, that is perfect. I know if someone attacks you all of a sudden it's impossible for you to follow all these. Try to remember, the kid in this movie does that.
Athey maathiri cleaning lady, maintenance guy apadinnu veettu keya copy panni kodukarathula enakku vudan paadu illai.
Intha padam ellarukkum voru nalla paadam. Kandippa ellarum paarka vaendiya padam.

Depression hurts!

One day, my cousin called me and said, "Don't panic, I have a news about our neighbor, she was missing and later they found her dead in the nearby lake, they enquired her husband the reason, he said she was under medication for depression". I was shocked (even though it was a late reaction).Not only this incident I hear a lot about suicides these days, to my surprise, they are all Indians.
People go abroad with great many expectations and when they find out there's nothing spl, of course sight seeing is one major entertainment other than that, you got a lot of work to do, esp.., the one with kids. They are depressed doing the same work everyday, missing their parents and their dear ones.
The main thing that affects them is hearing any good news like weddings or any other functions in our country. They miss everything from India. I know that hurts a lot, especially for housewives, they keep on thinking about it, while doing their chores. My request to their husbands are, whenever you notice your wife getting depressed or any change in activity, before taking her to a doctor, better take a vacation.
Take her to the place where she'll enjoy the most, talk to her while traveling, listen to her. Do this once a month. Every weekend download her favorite movies, even if it bores you, sit with her and ask her the favorite part. Try to play with kid, chat with her in kitchen, and do the dishes not much, but a few glasses or plates just once a week will do. Give her some time for herself.
If she is upset about something, ask her not to do any work including cooking take her out to dinner or order a take out. Talk to her. Encourage her hobbies, even if you feel they are waste of money or stupid, its worth than spending your Doctor's fees. If she doesn't have any hobby, if you know her very well and married for more than a year by now you would've discovered her field of interests. Join her in any class, these days, meditation and yoga are becoming popular in foreign countries (I think they are not expensive); join her in one of those things.
I know it's pretty hard for the partners to follow, since you are all stressed too. You do all your office work, but you atleast have the change of environment in your office. It’s not the same for her. She does the same thing everyday. Try being in home for two days without going out, not talking to anyone and simply watching TV, you'll feel bored too.

For depressed wives, don’t react to your emotions, try to handle them with care. Engage yourself with other things. Try to surf the net, stop saying "I know nothing to look for". Learn new things. I believe every girl has a hobby, try to find your's. You can learn a lot through internet when you are abroad. We are all grown ups, try not to bother your husband much. He is also stressed like you. It doesn’t mean you should conceal your feelings, try to talk to him and make him understand. He won’t listen in the beginning but don’t give up. You can share your feelings through blogs. Even if you are not interested in books, try going to the library everyday, you’ll find new friends.
Break away your shyness and learn new things that you couldn’t do in your country, for example, swimming. I think 25% of the Indian girls don’t know how to swim, because of their shyness.
“Namma vooru ponnunga morathaala puliyai adichu viratanavanga intha depression ellam emmathiram”
Try to follow this for a month. If you are still stressed and depressed, get an appointment with the doctor without delay.

Mother's Day Gift!

Mother's Day Gifts:

Father : Don't blame the mother(ur wife) for your kids mistakes, talk to her and listen to her.
Children : Try not to make any mistakes, even if you did she'll forgive you when you "Sorry, ma!"
Mother-in-law: Don't blame your DIL for your grandkids health, don't even point it out to her, that they are sick.

Daughter-in-law : Don't blame your MIL for her Son's mistakes .

With a single flower, and wishing her "Happy Mother's Day! " will make her the most happiest woman in the whole wide world.

FYI: She'll even cook all your favourite items today without complaining. Trust me, it works!

Motherhood!

"Potruvaar porpathum thootruvaar thoorpathum pogatum kannanukae", is a saying in Bhagavad Gita.

This perfectly fits to the motherhood. When your kid excels in a field, people will appreciate the mother, when they fail in their health or behaviour people will point the mother alone. Let me ask, what is the part of father here?

Is he one of the person in the jury or he is a part of the family?